Soul Contracts with Our Parents

Lightseeker’s Manual Visualisations: Week 8 – Soul Contracts

This week we are going to do an amazing meditation for your own understanding and self-insight of the relationships that have formed us, probably more than any other relationships, and that is the relationship that we have with our parents. This can be parents that have raised you, step-parents, or biological parents that you have never seen. It can be mother and father, mother mother, father father, step-father, biological father. Whoever have been the main people to raise you in your life. It can even be your grandparents as many of us have been raised by our grandparents. So use the meditation and if you have a particular relationship that you want to introduce instead of your parent in the meditation, you can also do that in your own time.

Exercises in the Lightseeker’s Manual

Each week in these blogs I am taking a meditation from the Lightseeker’s Manual, and of course if you actually go through all the exercises and the text in the book you will gain far greater insights than the meditations alone. But the meditations are so powerful in their own right I just want to share them. I think they are really lovely every time I do them. You do not need to do them just once. I gain a new insight every time I do the meditations. I gain greater strength, greater self-reliance, empowerment and new spiritual insights.

The Primitive Brain

So why is the relationship with our parents so important? And why is this meditation potentially profound? Well most of the subconscious of our minds is developed up until the age of about 7, 8 or 9. That’s where information in our primitive brain sits. Our primitive brain is a big driver for us and sits in our sub-conscious and so it can influence our life in ways that we really do not consciously understand.

In a great book that I read by the psychologist Harville Hendrix, Getting the Love you Want, who created the Imago relationship therapy, he finds people are attracted to other people with the composite characteristics of their parents. But what dominates are the bad aspects of both parents. And that all sits in the primitive brain.

So we can be attracted to somebody that is not necessarily the healthiest person for us but it makes us feel comfortable because the primitive brain is saying “oh that is what I am used to”. So, if there was a lot of shouting where you grew up it may seem quite normal to be around a partner that shouts a lot, even though that’s not particularly healthy. That is just one example.

Soul-Level Lessons

I always say with the Lightseeker’s platform, that we bring together all belief systems in a non-dogmatic way, for you to be able to access your highest guidance within your own belief system. But in my belief system, and there is actually evidence to back this up now, we have multiple lives, and so our parents are what we can consider some of our greatest teachers in this life. They may be toxic, they may be damaging or they may be amazing and empowering, but we have chosen these people at a soul level for the lessons they can teach us – and they have chosen us for the lessons we teach them.

Contract Agreed Before We Were Born

We have Soul Contracts with them, that we have agreed before we are born, before we enter this life. And these Soul Contracts have been chosen so we can maximise our learning. If everyone was wonderful and loving and amazing around us, and if everything was easy in the world, probably there would not be much room for us to grow as people.

Our parents are some of the people that we have chosen at Soul Contract level, to be there for us within this life to teach us many of the lessons that we are here to learn in this life, so we can evolve as souls and so we can continue our spiritual journey through the different lifetimes.

Meditate to Bring Insights

This is a great meditation, enjoy it! Do it more than once and substitute different people in there, different relationships, to bring insights into your most profound and influential relationships. Whether you feel they are healthy or not healthy, they will give you insights into the greatest learning that you can get from these relationships.

It’s lovely to be walking this path with you. If you want to have a go and do the whole of the Lightseeker’s Manual, it is wonderful. I would encourage you if you have time and inclination.

Join the Lightseeker’s Way platform, it is for open-minded people that want to accelerate their spiritual progression in life and bring more radiance into their own life and also to the world around them, and to heal the world.

Have a great day, and have a great week!

Listen to the meditation here!